{"id":1009,"date":"2022-12-06T19:11:04","date_gmt":"2022-12-06T17:11:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/?p=1009"},"modified":"2025-06-30T23:13:26","modified_gmt":"2025-06-30T21:13:26","slug":"autodescoperire-sau-autodistrugere-scris-de-ema-calian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/2022\/12\/06\/autodescoperire-sau-autodistrugere-scris-de-ema-calian\/","title":{"rendered":"Autodescoperire sau autodistrugere?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Autodescoperire sau autodistrugere?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Scris de Ema C\u0103lian<\/span><\/p>\n

Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce cre\u0219tem, devenim con\u0219tien\u021bi de ceea ce ne \u00eenconjoar\u0103 \u0219i \u00een cele din urm\u0103, de noi \u00een\u0219ine. Adolescen\u021ba e probabil perioad\u0103 \u00een care fenomenul con\u0219tientiz\u0103rii de sine este cel mai prevalent \u0219i are un impact crucial asupra vie\u021bii de zi cu zi. Cert este c\u0103 percep\u021bia noastr\u0103 se modific\u0103 \u00een mod constant. \u0218i nu pot s\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u00eentreb atunci, ce anume declan\u0219eaz\u0103 aceast\u0103 schimbare de perspectiv\u0103 \u0219i care versiune e cea mai apropiat\u0103 de autenticitate?<\/span><\/p>\n

F\u0103r\u0103 \u00eendoial\u0103 c\u0103 interac\u021biunile sunt un factor care contribuie la modul \u00een care ne percepem pe noi \u00een\u0219ine. C\u00e2nd m\u0103 confrunt cu dificult\u0103\u021bi \u00een stabilirea valorii mele ca persoan\u0103, m\u0103 \u00eentreb adesea: poate autopercep\u021bia s\u0103 vin\u0103 exclusiv din interior, ignor\u00e2nd ceea ce cred al\u021bii? Sau opiniile externe ar trebui privite ca o critica constructiv\u0103, aspect esen\u021bial pentru cre\u0219tere \u0219i dezvoltare? Cred c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 un r\u0103spuns corect la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare, mai ales pentru c\u0103 problema este mai nuan\u021bat\u0103 dec\u00e2t credem. Cu toate acestea, cred c\u0103 a avea o minte deschis\u0103, a procesa \u0219i a filtra feedback-ul \u00een mod obiectiv nu poate duce dec\u00e2t la \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bire.<\/span><\/p>\n

Starea mental\u0103 \u00een care ne afl\u0103m, fie c\u0103 este vorba de un sentiment temporar sau de o lupt\u0103 constant\u0103, influen\u021beaz\u0103 modul \u00een care ne percepem pe noi \u00een\u0219ine. Acest lucru poate fi sau nu legat de modul \u00een care am fost educa\u021bi. Judecata noastr\u0103 poate fi cu siguran\u021b\u0103 distorsionat\u0103, de exemplu, atunci c\u00e2nd ne confrunt\u0103m cu o dezaprobare constant\u0103 \u0219i avem tendin\u021ba de a ne subestima capacit\u0103\u021bile. Dar atunci apare \u00eentrebarea: poate fi m\u0103surat\u0103, de fapt, valoarea noastr\u0103 \u0219i, dac\u0103 da, ce versiune a acesteia este cea mai apropiat\u0103 de adev\u0103r? Aceste aspecte sunt un produs al societ\u0103\u021bii \u0219i, prin urmare, din punctul meu de vedere, sunt subiective. Cu toate astea, cred c\u0103 cel mai autentic sine este atunci c\u00e2nd a\u0219tept\u0103rile noastre, credin\u021bele \u0219i feedback-ul extern se aliniaz\u0103 sau se echilibreaz\u0103 armonios.<\/span><\/p>\n

Un alt aspect care joac\u0103 un rol major \u00een c\u0103l\u0103toria noastr\u0103 de autodescoperire este maturizarea. Maturitatea aduce multora o stim\u0103 de sine mai puternic\u0103, prin capacitatea de a stabili limite, de a nu se mai teme de conflicte, e\u0219ecuri, obstacole, de a-\u0219i exprima nevoile, de a fi mai asertivi \u0219i de a \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219a cine sunt cu adev\u0103rat. Cu alte cuvinte, un sentiment de reflec\u021bie asupra propriei persoane are o \u0219ans\u0103 mai mare de a fi valid cu o influen\u021b\u0103 extern\u0103 c\u00e2t mai mic\u0103 sau chiar inexistent\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta adult\u0103, dec\u00e2t \u00een perioada neclar\u0103 a adolescen\u021bei.<\/span><\/p>\n

De\u0219i con\u0219tiin\u021ba de sine este subiectiv\u0103 \u0219i adesea imprevizibil\u0103 \u00een rugozitatea sa, sper c\u0103 putem fi cu to\u021bii de acord c\u0103 fiecare dintre noi este valoros, unic \u0219i demn de respect.<\/span><\/p>\n

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EN<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

As we grow up, we start being aware of our surroundings and then eventually of ourselves. Adolescence is probably a time when the phenomenon of self awareness is the most prevalent and has a crucial effect on our day to day life. What is certain is that this aspect constantly changes. I can’t help but wonder then, what stimulates this change of perspective and which version is the closest to authenticity?<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s little to no doubt that interactions are a factor that contributes to how we perceive ourselves. When facing trouble establishing my worth and values, I often ask myself: Can the perception of oneself come solely from within disregarding what others think? Or should external opinions be seen as constructive criticism, an essential aspect for personal growth? I believe there is no such thing as a right answer to this, mostly because the issue is more nuanced than we think. However, I believe that having an open mind, processing and filtering feedback objectively can only lead to improvement. (The rest is up to each individual.)<\/span><\/p>\n

The mental state that we are in, whether that is a temporary feeling or a constant struggle, influences the way we perceive ourselves. This may or may not be linked to how we have been brought up. Our judgment can surely be distorted for instance when we are faced with constant disapproval and we tend to underestimate our capabilities. But then comes the question: can our worth actually be measured and if so, which version of it is the closest to the truth? These aspects are social constructs and therefore, the way I see it, they are subjective. Regardless, I think that the most authentic self is when our expectations, beliefs, and external feedback align or balance harmoniously.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yet another aspect that plays a major role in our self discovery journey is coming of age. Maturity brings to many a stronger self esteem, by being able to set boundaries, to not fear conflict, failure, setbacks, to voice needs, to be more assertive and to embrace who you really are. In other words, a sense of self reflection has a higher chance of existing with as little as no external influence in adulthood, rather than before.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nonetheless, I\u2019ve come to accept that this is a subjective, often unpredictable matter, but despite all of this, I hope that we can all agree that each of us is valuable, worthy of respect, care and love.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Autodescoperire sau autodistrugere? \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Scris de Ema C\u0103lian Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce cre\u0219tem, devenim con\u0219tien\u021bi de ceea ce ne \u00eenconjoar\u0103 \u0219i \u00een cele din urm\u0103, de noi \u00een\u0219ine. Adolescen\u021ba e probabil perioad\u0103 \u00een care fenomenul con\u0219tientiz\u0103rii de sine este cel mai prevalent \u0219i are un impact crucial asupra vie\u021bii de zi cu zi. Cert este c\u0103 percep\u021bia […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1009","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-social"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1009"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1032,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009\/revisions\/1032"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1009"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1009"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rotarytransilvania.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1009"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}